Why you struggle to take action towards your dreams

Welcome to Get Unstuck Radio.

A plainspoken, emotionally grounded TikTok livestream series. Each topic speaks directly to people who feel stuck, overwhelmed, or disconnected from their power.

Full Transcript:

This is a pop-up podcast, live on TikTok, where I help you get unstuck—which means start to move your life forward. Get moving on the projects you want to do, the life you want to live. Start to get out of the ruts you’ve found yourself in. And here’s the first thing I want you to know: none of this is your fault. And I’m going to help you move through it, step by step, episode by episode.

So let’s talk about why you can’t take action.

You have an idea. You have a dream, a desire. And yet you keep hitting a wall. You find yourself not able to do the things you need to do in order to move forward toward your vision. And again—it’s not your fault. It’s not because you’re lazy. It’s not because your mindset is crap. What’s really going on is deeper than that.

Let’s start with this: If you want to take inspired action in your life, make sure you want what you want.

There’s a difference between an ego desire and a soul desire.

A soul desire feels expansive. Even if it’s scary or challenging, it feels light. You feel pulled toward it. When it’s ego? That comes with contraction. Desperation. Frustration. It physically contracts in your body.

When I was working in corporate, I wanted the title, the salary, the prestige. But my body was tense, anxious, contracted. That wasn’t my soul. That was what I was conditioned to want.

A soul desire might not make any logical sense. And that’s how you know it’s real.

Your ego wants a plan. Your soul just knows.

If it lights you up in your body, it’s meant for you.

The journey—the real work—is learning how to navigate the obstacle course of ego and self-sabotage so you can actually align with that soul desire. When you take one step toward that aligned desire? It takes ten steps toward you. The universe really does conspire in your favor. The universe loves to spoil us rotten. It wants to. We just have to let it.

But most of us are trapped in a cycle: Triggers → Self-Sabotage → Unhelpful Patterns.

Let’s talk about triggers.

A trigger is an over-the-top emotional reaction to a situation. Somebody says something, and you completely lose it. It might be abandonment. Rejection. Feeling caged. Feeling dismissed. We all have them.

In relationships, especially, these triggers show up fast and furious.

Anxious attachment wants to fix. Avoidant attachment wants to run. Neither of them is wrong—they’re just responses to pain. And these reactions are what stop us from taking action on the things that matter.

Next: self-sabotage.

You’re not lazy. You’re stuck.

Self-sabotage can look like imposter syndrome, perfectionism, procrastination, lack of motivation, addiction, dissociation, even envy. All of it is your ego trying to protect you. But that protection keeps you small.

The ego isn’t evil—it’s just overworked. We’ve put it in charge when it was never meant to lead.

And then: patterns.

This is where it all gets locked in. Toxic relationships. Addictive behaviors. Poverty mindset passed down through generations. The cycle gets baked into our nervous system.

Triggers lead to sabotage, which becomes a pattern. And round and round we go.

So how do we break the cycle?

We deal with the stuck energy in the body.

Not the mind—the body.

Most of us were never taught how to feel our feelings. We’ve survived moments we were never actually present for. We’ve stored away the emotional energy that couldn’t move through us at the time, and it’s still waiting to be felt.

And that’s the work: presence.

So here’s what to do:

1. Deal with what’s in front of you. You don’t need to dig up the past. The trigger you’re experiencing right now is enough. That’s your doorway.

2. Slow down to speed up. The urgency to fix it and move on? Ego. Slow is smooth. Smooth is fast.

3. Put the story away. Your partner forgot your birthday? That hurts. But we’re not going to loop on the story. That just keeps us out of the body. Instead, ask: Where do I feel this in my body?

4. Use the body as a bridge. Feel the physical sensation. Stay with it. Gently peel back the emotional layers. Let yourself have the experience.

If you do this consistently, your life will change. The charge will be gone. You’ll still have boundaries. You’ll still speak up. But it won’t own you.

This practice is called Soulmatic Renewal.

And it has changed my life.

It’s how I healed addiction, grew my spiritual business, navigated relationships, and helped my clients do the same. I’ve watched students launch businesses, meet their soulmates, pay off debt, manage anxiety and BPD, all through Soulmatic Renewal.

If you want to learn the exact process, go grab the Soulmatic Renewal Masterclass. $27. An hour and a half training. And a special offer if you decide to join the Mastermind.

We don’t get unstuck by pushing harder.

We get unstuck by getting present.

This is what works.

I love you. Let’s begin.

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